Proverbs 22:6 New International Version (NIV)
25 “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it."
The Myers' home has had a few stressful days. We were coming off of a long (5 day break - maybe too long) President's Day weekend. It was an innocent 3:30 on a Tuesday afternoon, and I wanted to run to the grocery store. I thought at first, 'ugh... it will be so annoying to take the kiddos to the store and they would rather just stay home'. Then, I thought, 'this is REDICULOUS.... If I wanna take my Kinder & 3rd Grader on an errand, that should be okay.' So, I yelled up to their rooms (they were both well over their targeted 'screen time' threshold x's 10). After my Kinder grumbled, I think I told them they could get a treat. This phrase comes out of my mouth so naturally and quickly to get them to be quiet that I honestly don't even remember. My oldest says I didn't say it, but my youngest says I did. We will call it a tie?
So, off to the grocery store we go where my Kinder starts to melt down as I decided a treat is not needed for a quick Tuesday afternoon trip. My 3rd grader stomped quietly (God... I thank you everyday for his quiet demeanor), but most certainly 'put out' at this notion that he must do something he does not want. I had to leave the store with 1/2 of what I needed as I couldn't think and I had to get my exploding (I pray to God everyday to find the joy in her very, very LOUD demeanor) Kinder out of the store.
Once I got home, I was so ashamed and quite frankly disgusted of myself. I am an educated woman. I am privliged to be able to stay home and take care of my 'nuggets' as oppossed to juggling a huge career and home (I admire those ladies so much). What the heck? How have I spent the last 9 years raising a duo of kiddos that feel so entitled that they can not be bothered to run an errand.
My hubby came home a few hours later and was greeted with my recap of how terrible our kiddos are. He did not say anything (a little too smart for that), but I saw it in his eye. He was just thinking...'its your fault... you want their childhood to be so magical and you work so hard to make their lives so wonderful and you base your happiness on their happiness and they are walking right over you!' I saw it all, Mr. Hubby, I saw it all!!!
I proceeded to start dinner. I was fed up with them, and cooked them the most terrible dinner they could imagine... chicken, potatoes and green beans. We loaded their plates up with healthy portions of each and told them they had to finish their plates. My 3rd grader quietly cried, gagged and struggled to get his food down. It took him about an hour or so, but he finished and left . My Kinder loudly stomped, screamed, pushed things off her plate, pleaded that she was stuffed and many, many more great threats from her list of antics. I had to leave because the whole process was making me feel sick. My husband, has nerves of steal, did not cave. My Kinder sat there till 8:30 at which point my husband told her that her iPad was thrown out and off to bed she goes. She whaled, tantrumed and cried like I had never seen. This 6 year old little girl was carrying on about the loss of her iPad as if she truly lost a loved one. This was one of the most eye opening parenting moments as of date.
I am working so hard to raise these kiddos to be kind, caring, help others, love the Lord and just well to be good human beings. How could I have missed the mark on this one? How could I have let my nuggets get so entitled that they want for nothing and think I am here to serve them.
We live in a world of plenty! It is both a blessing and curse and I think it makes parenting so very difficult. I can't just let them run outside as we don't have neighborhood kids and I'd be fearful that something might happen. They are living in a world where snacks, treats, and juices are thrown at them every hour. They don't even know what hunger is. They only know what plenty is.
According to Proverbs 22:6 (NIV) 25 “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it." God, give me strength to do so. I need to raise my kiddos so that they will walk in your path, but they also need to know that patience, a hard day's work and longing for things can actually be rewarding. I am going to work so hard to help my kiddos 'get' that life is not easy and they need be grateful even when they are not getting exactly what they want.
I'm Rachel Myers, a mom of 2, married to my college guy, former Corporate America gal that stayed home with the kiddos, and now am a preK teacher. This is my little spot to reflect and make it through my journey. Sometimes I lean on Christ and sometimes I forget. Along the way, I love finding inspiration from others, spreading the good in people and finding the joy in God !